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Punishment to children remains to be done in a way that educates, any senakal them. Delinquency is an integral part of the development of the child, especially during the first 7 years. Many parents who responded with naughty little inappropriate to express anger, physical punishment, even not a few who progress to physical violence. In fact, such forms of punishment that can interfere with emotional development of children, until not infrequently become increasingly naughty behavior or "the wild".
Kesalahnnya scold your child because it is reasonable, as long as parents do not utter harsh words and humbled to be attached as a negative memory until he grew up. Giving a punishment for naughtiness even as much as possible should be done in a way that educates and effective. That is, without corporal punishment continues to be much less physical violence.
Why is that? There are some fairly rational reasons. First, because childhood is a golden period for the child, the growth and development of physical, emotional, mental and intellectual, the play that could make him happy, a period that should be remembered as the happiest period of his life. Secondly, when someone is angry and could not control his anger and emotions, then it could continue to be rudeness and violence, whether physical or utterance, so it can be painful and lasting memory in the hearts and brains of children. Third, scolding is not enough without paying attention, exemplary attitude and behavior toward children. Every child needs immediate attention from oranng, especially his parents. Naughty behavior she could have done because they feel less of a concern or unnoticed.
Then how to provide penalties for educating your child? As parents, we need to remember and we understand that our aim is to give punishment to the child not to hurt him, but to discipline him. Discipline is not always synonymous with hard and rough, but in penerapnnya required consistency, either in punishment or in providing exemplary attitude, speech and behavior. Ideally, a punishment also should provide a deterrent effect for the little guy. However, in practice, we also have to be wise in understanding misbehavior or mistakes made by the child, so that we can customize the way and kind of punishment with the child's age. Giving out punishment to children aged under five would have to be distinguished with children over the age of 5-7 years, because normally, emotional and rational intelligence they continue to evolve in line accretion age.
In a study as reported by kompas.com, Dr. Paul Frick, one of the faculty of the University of New Orleans, USA concluded that there are three ways to provide effective penalties for the little guy. The third way that has been published in the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology following more effective than physical punishment such as hitting.
1. Silence or give them time alone to contemplate his mistake. After that, just encourage him talk and ask the reason why he did that
2. Giving children extra chores according to ability and age. For children aged under 5 years this may not be applied saklek
3. Do not allow your child to do his favorite activity for a while. For example, not allowed to play on the internet and watching his favorite television show during the week.
According to Dr. Paul Frick consistency is key in giving punishment to discipline children who use this type. Physical punishment was temporarily able to stop kenakalnnya, but the impact could be more at risk of mental factors and self confidence.
When we look at, physical punishment such as hitting it but also cause pain and stress can make children feel afraid of doing something wrong. In the long run, this could affect the mental development of the psychological. child can develop into doubting, fearful of the act or make decisions, not independent and are not confident or even more wild acting by developing his understanding that should be followed up with a violent rage. At the time of development, children imitate the sayings and deeds of many a parent or family. Therefore, the way we provide them is a form of punishment to the upbringing and education that should we look, we understand and we apply them wisely.
No matter how small they felt experiences in childhood and no matter how small we did to them in childhood will affect the future later. May be useful.
Kesalahnnya scold your child because it is reasonable, as long as parents do not utter harsh words and humbled to be attached as a negative memory until he grew up. Giving a punishment for naughtiness even as much as possible should be done in a way that educates and effective. That is, without corporal punishment continues to be much less physical violence.
Why is that? There are some fairly rational reasons. First, because childhood is a golden period for the child, the growth and development of physical, emotional, mental and intellectual, the play that could make him happy, a period that should be remembered as the happiest period of his life. Secondly, when someone is angry and could not control his anger and emotions, then it could continue to be rudeness and violence, whether physical or utterance, so it can be painful and lasting memory in the hearts and brains of children. Third, scolding is not enough without paying attention, exemplary attitude and behavior toward children. Every child needs immediate attention from oranng, especially his parents. Naughty behavior she could have done because they feel less of a concern or unnoticed.
Then how to provide penalties for educating your child? As parents, we need to remember and we understand that our aim is to give punishment to the child not to hurt him, but to discipline him. Discipline is not always synonymous with hard and rough, but in penerapnnya required consistency, either in punishment or in providing exemplary attitude, speech and behavior. Ideally, a punishment also should provide a deterrent effect for the little guy. However, in practice, we also have to be wise in understanding misbehavior or mistakes made by the child, so that we can customize the way and kind of punishment with the child's age. Giving out punishment to children aged under five would have to be distinguished with children over the age of 5-7 years, because normally, emotional and rational intelligence they continue to evolve in line accretion age.
In a study as reported by kompas.com, Dr. Paul Frick, one of the faculty of the University of New Orleans, USA concluded that there are three ways to provide effective penalties for the little guy. The third way that has been published in the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology following more effective than physical punishment such as hitting.
1. Silence or give them time alone to contemplate his mistake. After that, just encourage him talk and ask the reason why he did that
2. Giving children extra chores according to ability and age. For children aged under 5 years this may not be applied saklek
3. Do not allow your child to do his favorite activity for a while. For example, not allowed to play on the internet and watching his favorite television show during the week.
According to Dr. Paul Frick consistency is key in giving punishment to discipline children who use this type. Physical punishment was temporarily able to stop kenakalnnya, but the impact could be more at risk of mental factors and self confidence.
When we look at, physical punishment such as hitting it but also cause pain and stress can make children feel afraid of doing something wrong. In the long run, this could affect the mental development of the psychological. child can develop into doubting, fearful of the act or make decisions, not independent and are not confident or even more wild acting by developing his understanding that should be followed up with a violent rage. At the time of development, children imitate the sayings and deeds of many a parent or family. Therefore, the way we provide them is a form of punishment to the upbringing and education that should we look, we understand and we apply them wisely.
No matter how small they felt experiences in childhood and no matter how small we did to them in childhood will affect the future later. May be useful.
(Author: Nia Hidayati)
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